Love Your Singleness

When was the last time you logged into Facebook? I know a throwback social media, what can I say, I'm 24 now, getting up there.

Have you ever logged onto Facebook, perhaps multiple times a day and been bombarded with your current friends, high school friends, that person who sat next to you in your Math class in college, or even your work friends changing their status to "Engaged"?

Is it really just me?

Good, I didn't think so.

Just a few weeks ago one of my very best friends got engaged- finally. We've been waiting for this relationship change for awhile and truly couldn't contain our excitement when the moment finally happened.

There's a funny thing that happens when your friends get engaged though, or even when they get married, have children, buy a house. No matter the joy you feel inside for them and the new steps they are taking, you start to look at your own life and wonder what the heck you are doing. This happened to me once again when said friend got engaged. I looked at my life and thought, What am I doing?

I love weddings, I love marriage, I love Love. But I am no where close to wanting to be married. Yes, I would love to be at some point, but not right now.

Right now I want to consume my life with the moments that I love: Family, Friends, Coffee, Adventures, Being the best auntie to my adorable nieces, being a great friend to my friends, investing in people and relationships and places that I want to go see.

Right now I want to focus on myself. I want to improve my health. I want to learn another language and more than just the phrases in Spanish and French my mum and I mix up while we are cooking. I want to be able to speak it!

Right now I want to learn more about who I am.

There's the wonderful movie, How To Be Single, that came out a few years ago on Valentine's Day. I honestly thought it was another one of those Valentine movies that would only show a certain side of what it was like to be single in your twenties and therefore never went to see it in theaters. I ended up watching on my flight back to the States last summer and loved it. Of course as I was telling a co-worker about it recently, I prefaced the excellent movie with mentioning that I was probably oxygen deficient and sleep deprived so I'm not sure how wonderful it actually was. (I just watched it again and it truly is wonderful).

If you ask anyone who is in a serious relationship they say to cherish your single years. We shouldn't wish them away hoping that the next guy we swipe right on, the next guy we wait on, the next guy to buy you drinks will be The One. We should live our lives in anticipation for these things.

Are you who you want to be when you get married? Are you the type of person who wants to invite someone else into every little space of your life?

If you're like me, you're no where close. I'm not who I'm going to be when The One and I find each other (yes, I do believe that we will grow one another, but I'm not yet there either).

Singleness isn't a curse, it's a blessing. We can live it the way that we wish.

I can pack up my bags tomorrow and move to England.

I can decide I want to speak Finnish and learn it.

I can cut off all of my hair.

I can go hike the Appalachian Trail, the Pacific Crest, I can do anything. I need not spend this time of being single, of waiting just sitting. I can spend this time doing and loving who I am, where I am, what I am.

Love your singleness, because one day it may be gone and you just might want it back, if only a small taste.

 *photo credits: Google Images*